I’d begin by saying I don’t know anything. This me, have thoughts where she thinks she knows, but as she continues to exist, she realizes she dont know. I thought I knew myself, but as time goes by, I see it’s all attachments, and none of it is me. I use the phrase “I believe” and “my values” throughout this writing. But what do I believe, and what are my values, really? I am me without all the attachments, and I do not quite know how to describe who I am. The name Danicker was given after birth. Danicker is a woman; she was born with a female reproductive system, and she has assumed the role of a mother. These 2 things helps shape her perspective as she experiences life being a human. I look outside my window into the stillness of nature and I think to myself; throughout all of creation, I could have been a bird, a cat, a horse, or a honey bee. But instead, I get to experience life as a human…
A woman.
I think women need to appreciate themselves in their natural state. I don’t notice any other creation doing so much to themself. The hair, the nails, the makeup, and the cosmetic procedures look good, sometimes. But from my observation, none of it is necessary, and the more it’s done to oneself, it creates an illusion. A false identity. To a point where a person starts lying to themself, thinking in their mind, they don’t look good if all these things aren’t done. This created illusion takes a woman further away from her naturalness, which is already visible to the eyes. A female must innerstand she is attractive as is. Moreover, she can look at herself, recognize what she sees, and accept her natural appearance for what it is. Knowing that she is exotic in her natural state, and what she sees, is surface level to who she truly is, which goes beyond the physical appearance.
I had this realization a few years ago. Why am I purchasing makeup to cover up my skin to give me that polished look when I can take care of my natural skin so that it appears more polished and cleaner. To this day, I still have not achieved a polished, natural-looking skin. But what I’ve achieved is accepting what my skin looks like. Learning to better take care of it, accepting it for what it is.
Covering up a problem will not fix the problem. Doing more to oneself tends to create an actual problem.
A mother.
Being a dedicated mother, more mothers need to realise their role. The internet is not responsible for raising our kids. I think as kids, there’s not much that needs to be taught, because as is, they are in their purest state. I like to think my responsibility is to gently guide them while teaching them important values that will help them as they experience their life. And not so much to have this busy schedule of activities, I think they should be doing. I believe being affectionate with our kids is necessary, and embracing them at their highs and their lows will result in them embracing themself through their high and their lows. Seeing that those moments do arise, and it’s all a part of being.
“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it”. I believe how I experience life now and the decisions I make while being a mother will have some influence on the decisions my kids make as they continue to experience their lives.
My kids see me tidying our home at the end of every day. Apart from being someone who always ensures my space is tidy. As a mother, I do it with intentions, even when I do not feel like it sometimes. And I do this to teach them to be grateful for a home, and being grateful looks like taking care of the space they live in. Not out and about with any and every one, teaching them they need to be mindful of who they choose to be around. Also, teaching them situations don’t always go as we expect them to go, but it gives us the opportunity to problem solve. I allow myself brief moments throughout the day to be still, and I teach them the importance of voluntarily resting their body.
humanity is just very busy doing more and more, and I wonder to myself, when would we ever be satisfied? I realize the more a person does in life is the more they have to keep doing. I don’t have any desire to be a human who keeps on doing, because that goes against my nature. My life and my experience is humbling, and I’m grateful.
A Wife.
This is a touchy subject in today’s world. I hear some say marriage is hard, I don’t doubt them. I hear some say it’s beautiful, and I believe them. Some say they don’t want it, and I can understand why. In the process of realising who I am, beyond what I know. I still desire to experience a connection with someone similarly.
I believe motherhood, marriage, and submitting to God all have similarities. All require self-sacrifice. Humility. Obedience. Patience. Dedication. Loyalty.
The world is currently so opinionated about male and female relationships. It’s like a toxic trend where people are requiring so much or wanting again, so much from another. It’s like men and women are starting relationships with the intention of using one another. There’s so much attention on the “requirement” section. Similar to a job, right? There might be someone who’s absolutely great at doing the job, yet doesn’t get the job because they don’t have all the requirements. And the person with all the requirements gets the job, but does the job very poorly.
Its interesting to sit and just observe how much emphasis humans put on things that isn’t quite necessary, myself included. Trying for everything to be perfect. But who is perfect? And where’s the perfect situation?
You connect with someone; the connection is great. They like you, you like them, y’all share similar values. Y’all both decide to exclusively commit to each other. That’s it, in my opinion. Anything else can be worked on. What are humans doing getting distracted with “a type”, when genuine connection is more important than a type.
Yes, we may have preferences, we create ideals in our mind, including myself. But those preferences are not to be held onto, tightly, because when you connect with someone it goes beyond our preferences, and we have to do nothing but surrender to it, and trust God, and trust the process. There’s great control in the world, and manupilation, and doing, and trying to arrange.
Relationship specialists are everywhere on the internet, telling you who you should be with or why this, and why that. In my opinion, it’s all a distraction. I believe in love; I believe in marriage between one man and one woman, and I believe in the family. However, I think we can realize who we are aside from all those attachments because it will make a difference in how we continue to experience life.
