You may be asking yourself what are some tips to help you stop comparing yourself to others. At times we compare ourselves to others, I do too, I’m human. This is triggered by a lot of things.
I have this trait about myself where I try my very best to perfect whatever I do. Once I have the vision I try hard to bring it to reality, to a point where if it is not up to my standard, I’ll just keep going at it or have a meltdown. To be quite frank here, in the past, this has somehow led me to a point of comparing myself to others. In saying that, I do not know what causes you to compare yourself to others, but the fact that you are aware of it, is good.
Here Are 5 tips to help you stop comparing yourself to others.
1. Do not let your age define who you are.
“She’s young so she can do that”, or, “He’s older so he can afford to do that”. How about, I am this age, but that does not say anything, because I want to ride this bike, so I am going to ride this bike. Please understand, you are in your own lane, and you will always be in your own lane. How you run your lane, is determined by you. Your age should motivate you to put your own touches on whatever it is you do, or want to do. Whether it be starting a business, to living your best life, and so on.
2. Appreciate your skills and your lifestyle.
I love expressing myself through writing. Yours might be baking, putting outfits together, or creating dope graphic designs. As much as it may seem like, we do not have skills at some stage in our life, I believe we all have skills. I’ve heard others say they do not know what their skills are. I understand how this can be possible. However, once you take time to learn who you are, you will discover what you are good at.
Recognize it, and learn to use it, to the best of your ability. I recommend you read this post on self-care routine as a stay-at-home mom. In this post, I have listed some of my ways of spending quality time with myself, you might gain a few ideas, that you can implement into your daily routine.
3. Give social media a break.
Most of what is being displayed on social media are highlights. Would you put your worst self on a platform for the world to see knowing how judgmental people can be? The answer is probably no.
Therefore, when you find yourself in a state of mind comparing yourself to another, take some time away from social media. Spend some time with yourself and appreciate who you really are. Love the body you are in, we are all flawed in some way. Appreciate all your hard work and dedication.
4. Stop comparing other’s achievements to yours.
We all have different goals in life. My main goal is to be an available mother to my kids. I also want to be able to help people in a big way with whatever I choose to do. Therefore most of my actions will reflect what I am trying to accomplish.
Your goal might be to travel to 10 different countries before a certain age. What I am trying to say here, is the part you take, compared to the part I take, is different, simply because we want different things in life. Hence the reason it is not wise to focus on what others have going on
Focus on you, and what you want to achieve, and the actions you can take to get there. If you want the desired outcome you have to put in the work.
5. You do you, unapologetically, with God in mind.
Your life is yours no one else’s. That means you have the privilege to do what pleases you and what makes you happy. Figure out what it is you love doing, and do it more often. If you’re going to look at others let it be for inspirational purposes. People who can actually elevate your life in the areas of your life you want to develop. I recommend taking inspiration from people who are better off in those areas of your life you want to develop.
