Based on a conversation I had most recently, I was irritated a bit, and preferably, I would usually write my thoughts out about such conversations in my journal, then rip the page and burn it. As I was showering myself on the night of the same day, I voluntarily began reflecting on my response to the conversation. I also began processing my thoughts in the moment while showering, they were so much.
About a couple of minutes later, the image of my recent phone screen saver popped into my mind. My screensaver says, BE PRESENT. I was so grateful for that reminder. But then I started thinking, how can I be present when there are all these thoughts in my mind. What am I going to do with these thoughts? I quickly decided in the moment my shower was more important, and it’s true I needed to be present. I needed to just feel the water flowing on my skin while being in complete silence. Not clinging to any thoughts that are coming up, instead observing them, allowing them to fall away, and refocusing on the shower I was experiencing. I thoroughly enjoy showers; I could never get enough.
Control your mind.
I think one of the worst things a person can do to themself is ruin good relationships because of their perception of an individual In THEIR OWN MIND. Our mind can be our worst enemy and create havoc in our lives. This is an internal battle that I believe most humans experience at some point. I’ve heard before, and I’ve probably said it myself, sometimes it’s not you at fault, but instead the other person can be battling their own self, their mind that is. And this can be known to them, or completely unknown to them. This is something that finally made sense to me while having my shower. I understood they did not realize what their own mind were doing. Thinking something that isn’t true, while causing them to act on it in reality, in an unpleasant way.
It’s important WE recognize the mind for what it does. Once we recognize what it does, it does not have to be considered a battle because you’re aware of what the mind is doing, and YOU have the ability to observe and release those thoughts, or dwell on them, making them become a part of your reality.
You can say a person is dishonest because you’ve caught them not being honest with you on different occasions. You can say a person doesn’t care about others because you’ve seen how poorly they treat others, such as strangers and relatives. It’s true, you can say someone doesn’t like you because they treat you as if they don’t like you, and they’ve probably said it too. These are evident scenarios where you know it’s not just your mind.
You cannot say you’re sure someone’s thinking a certain thing when in reality, they never said they were. You’re not sure about that. To be sure, you need to ask. A lot of confusion can be resolved if we’ll just communicate with each other clearly. If it’s important to you, you’ll communicate, and if it’s not important, then it’s harmful to you to allow your mind to keep creating thoughts that you later cling to. And as a result of those thoughts and your clinging, you start acting in reality based on those thoughts.
Be present.
Stop allowing your mind to phuck with you.
A person is who they are when you take your time to know them, in reality.
They are not who they are based on what your mind says. There’s a difference. Know the difference.
A book I continue to find value in is The Power of Now, by Eckhart Tolle.
