I will continue to be me. As someone who thinks deeply, I often have to shut my thoughts down to silence my mind, or else it’ll go on and on. When I communicate with others I find myself replaying conversations in my mind. Something that caught my attention and has been on my mind for the past week is how much we tend to overextend ourselves. I may have probably done so in the past, but over the past couple years I don’t think I’ve done so. I try to be my authentic self as much as possible while also navigating who I am as a person. A person may not experience my full authentic self all at once in a short space of time, but authenticity with no pretense is my goal.
I think someone will either like my energy or they won’t. Either way, I have nothing to lose.
Stop overextending yourself.
I also call it pretending. Doing something because you think that’s what expected of you. Doing more than what’s asked of you. Going out of your way even when it’s a stress on you. But I can understand how we all can fall into the trap of being nice, doing what’s expected of us by others. When really, it’s not who we are. We hear things like, “How you’ll say that and that’s shelly?” “You cannot do that, that will not come across nice.” Or, “tell Jim sorry you didn’t mean it.” It’s just all programming. I’m smiling while I’m writing this because I’m not trying to say be bad or be a horrible person. But instead, I’m saying, be yourself. Honestly, that way about others has been irritating me which is why I write this. It’s like, I observe you’re being nice but I also SEE, you think that’s what I expect, or you think that’s the appropriate response, so you say it or behave a particular way, and that is the irritating part.
It’s funny as I write this for real, but it really isn’t. I just have to smile and shake my head. This is another reason I prefer to be alone and possibly live other realities in my head. Because I say things that may hurt others feelings, and I can be cold and that can offend others because they expect a different response. I cannot live up to others expectations. That is a burden.
People just seem so programmed and perfect.
To a point that being myself feels like its literally a wrong doing. I start thinking maybe I shouldn’t say this or that. Maybe I need to start doing xyz, although I know very well why I’m not doing it. For a brief moment, I start questioning myself, Danicker are you a bad person?
But I understand. People want to feel accepted by others. They want to be praised, they want to hear, “You have a good heart you’re so kind”. They want others to speak about them in a good way. People want to be acknowledged for their effort. Say, you’re better than this person, they want to hear that. Am I saying these are bad? No. But these are a cause.
Please KNOW you don’t have to over extend yourself and try to do or say what is expected of you by others. You have to be yourself, that is your gift. Our differences is what creates diversity in the world. That looks like expressing ourselves in our own way that is unique to us. And the truth is, not everyone will like it, BUT, that is ok.
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