I once thought being older meant being more serious about commitment. I assumed that meant maturity. But here’s what I noticed: some men say they want a committed relationship, yet contradict themselves by behaving as if they were single. I’m not that experienced when it comes to relationships, so I can only speak from what I’ve personally lived.
I’ve loved through actions. I’ve cooked, supported, created peace, respected space, invested emotionally and practically. I gave naturally. That is who I am. No one had to force that out of me.
“But here’s the uncomfortable truth. The goal was probably never love, but sex.”
I’m just gonna say it how I interpret it. You saw it was looking like something more serious, so… You stick around cause the treatment is good too. Plus, it looking like this girl real independent, so you don’t have to spend much. She coming 50/50. You like that…
But You Want A wife and want to be a part of the hook-up culture too.
Don’t come around with that energy. Some women were raised protected and probably weren’t taught fully what to look for in a man, potentially a husband. But we’re not stupid. How you going to experience a female commit herself to you and treat you with care, and you there wanting streets, too? There’s no respect to be given. There is a time and place for games.
Not going to play innocent, though; my mouth ain’t the quietest, but I’ll probably come back to this in another post.
Notice earlier, I said some.
I don’t believe every man lets his lust control them. Or is out here plainly just trying to hook up with females on a temporary basis. While probably also being in a committed relationship.
I believe there are loyal men with great self-control who have great discernment. I believe there are men who want to be in love and live accordingly.
Now I was told I was delusional for believing this because “girl, all a man wants is sex from a woman”.
Makes it sound so abusive and shallow.
If that’s the case… I’ll stay delusional. Because if there’s a me, there’s a very fitting opposite.
It is a waste of creative energy and an abuse to the human just to be out here living that way.
My written thoughts on the men who desire the hook-up life… Have fun, if that’s what satisfies you. There’s someone who desires the same lifestyle. No shame in your game. Be proud of what you like. And stay in your lane.
As women, we also should learn the lesson, or else it will repeat. A man will treat you based on what you accept, and he will test you first. Let a man be a man… Have your values in place. Do not be afraid to disagree or say no. And do not be afraid of loss.
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